Every year I struggle with buying gifts for my children. They have…
Since starting this blog, I feel like life is throwing me so many opportunities to learn. It’s strange, and by that I mean a little eerie. Life can sometimes plateau and you feel day-to-day life just passes you by without necessarily offering you chances to reflect or learn. Since starting this blog, I am learning and growing every day.
On Friday night whilst I was out with some girlfriends for a ‘thank-god-it’s-the-end-of-the-week’ drink, I was telling a friend how I worry people may think my son, Noah, is rude because he’s quiet and people may miss him thanking them because he takes a while to say it.
I mentioned how I usually tell people in these situations ‘oh he has a speech delay’ and I hate myself for that. Why? Why do I need to say that? I am basically labeling him and giving people an impression of what he may be like even before they have got to know him themselves.
My friend agreed she does the same with her daughter and she mentioned Dr Shefali Tsabary.
Dr Shefali Tsabary is a clinical physiologist and author of award winning book The Conscious Parent. Dr Tsabary talks about how we should not be seeking to perfect our children. We don’t let them play anymore, they must be learning. They can’t have a hobby, they must excel in it. They can’t dream, they must dream big”.
BOOM. That really hit me like lightening and I agree with it wholeheartedly, we should certainly not be trying to perfect our children when they are just perfect already. Then my friend said “Why do we do that, why can’t we just be…”. “Why can’t we simply just be” I interjected. “It’s hard, it’s exhausting to just be!” she said. Damn right it is, but I think that is the way forward.
Noah is 3 years old, he’s learning every day, loving every day and living every day perfectly.
Lucy is 21 months old, she’s learning every day, loving every day and living every day perfectly.
If you have time, check out Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday with Dr Shefali Tsabary on Conscious Parenting, it is so interesting. I also recommend Dr Tsabary’s book The Conscious Parent, although I have only read snippets it looks like a very enlightening read and I will be downloading a copy tonight.